2017-04-12 / Editorials

Mike Reese

“I was just thinking”

Is there anything sadder than not having friends? I’ve tried to imagine that and, because I have friends, I find it almost impossible to wrap my mind around the situation of not having at least one true friend. Sometimes, I suppose, if they are a real friend, it only takes having one friend to help move us through our lives. I don’t hold to what you sometimes hear: “My wife, or husband, is my best friend.” A friend, to me, is different than a spouse. But to those who make that claim, it’s o.k. with me. Maybe I just don’t understand, which happens to me a lot. Just ask my wife who’s not one of my best friends. She’s a lot of bests to me, just not best friends.

I Googled to find some quotes about friendship. There’s no end to them, most with puppies, kittens, and daisies adorning the quotes. Not what I had in mind---an example : “Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an obligation.” Ugh! I think I developed cavities in my molars just reading scores of those saccharine laced quotes.

Friendship quotes that more closely describe my friends and me read something like the following. “Friends, they know how crazy you are and will still be seen in public with you,” and the following quote, at times, has been especially appropriate in my friendships: “Just remember, if we get caught, you’re deaf and I don’t speak English.” That would mostly apply to my early friendship years, not so much today, thankfully.

We’ve all had friendships where we’ve been separated from a friend for months, or even years, but when we’re reunited we picked right up as if there’d never been a separation. Class reunions are good tools for producing those type friendship reunions. Those old familiar juices start to freely flow as soon as one of you says something like this, “Remember when we thought there wasn’t a snowball’s chance she’d ever go to the prom with you, and she didn’t, but instead, she went with that boy who’d just been paroled?” Or, “Remember when you had to take those penicillin shots when you got back from Tijuana?” Memories, it’s always about those sweet memories.

I saw another friendship quote which read, “That’s a horrible idea! What time? Count me in!” That fit perfectly in describing a friends’ weekend beach trip many years ago. Thankfully a baby wasn’t born in jail. That’s all I’m saying. So don’t ask. We’ll all take the story of that weekend to our graves. That’s what good friends do. Besides, there are grandchildren to deceive and protect. They think we’ve always been as perfect as we are today. LOL.

I’ll end with this quote that accurately reflects my friendships today. “Friends come and go, like waves of the ocean, but true friends, those really true friends, they stay with you like an octopus stuck to your face.” I’m a lucky man and I like octopus. .

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