2018-02-28 / Editorials

Martha Chalker

Nope , Not About Religion!

No one is coming to save you! And stop trying to save other people. Only they can achieve that for themselves. It’s not about religion, it’s about common sense and everyday life. Yes, our spirituality, beliefs and values are basic in how we communicate with others, family, friends, and co-workers, how we perform our job and how we treat our spouse. It has everything in the world to do with if and how we criticize others, how judgmental we are and how we gossip behind people’s backs, all of which I have grown to despise and stop tolerating.

Now let’s discuss how we can come to our own rescue and save ourself from ourselves. Let’s start a list of behaviors, thoughts and plans to improve four basic areas of life. I will include an idea bank of suggestions as I did a few weeks ago on building a strong personal foundation.

We’ll call this list, "What Do You Want?"

1. To always tell the truth.
2. To simply do what I say I am going to do.
3. To communicate fully.
4. To text my spouse every single day what I love and
appreciate about him or her even when things aren’t
5. To find out what my spouse wants and needs from me.

1. To always tell the truth.
2. To simply do what I say I am going to do.
3. To be creative and honor my clients and their needs.
4. To honor and encourage my co-workers.
5. Offer only positive, constructive suggestions or criticism
coming from a place of love and understanding.

1. To simply do what I say I am going to do.
2. To walk at least 8000 steps a day at least four days a week.
Have a support system in place.
3. Floss every single day.
4. Drink 60 ounces of water a day.
5. Pay closer attention to what I put in my body. (Notice
these are all positive statements about what we will do.
We’re not saying no more wine with dinner because that
may or may not happen).

1. To always tell the truth.
2. To simply do what I say I’m going to do.
3. To communicate fully and truthfully.
4. To have a conversation face to face or on the phone, not
just through texts or messaging. I love to hear a voice and
my kids actually like to hear mine back. Both my children
live so far away, it’s a good way to stay
connected between visits.
5. If there is a rift, misunderstanding or argument happening
with anyone in the family, handle it this week. You may
have to have a serious and uncomfortable conversation, but
get it out in the open. Find a way to make it right. Everyone
involved will feel better.

And back to the (Simply Do What You Say You are Going to Do)! Your life will change. Sadly, only a small percentage of people actually follow through and do what they say they are going to do! Be the one who follows through and people will remember and respect who you are. You honor yourself by keeping your word and you honor the other person or business as well. So, What Do You Want?

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